Hi, Zander here again with more top tips on how you can get through the pain of giving the Best Man Speech at a wedding! I’ve done it three times, and each time it got easier because I simply applied a few basic ground rules. One of the key ones is, if you’re not sure what to talk about, don’t whatever you do try to pad it out. Nobody wants to sit though fifteen minutes of waffle. Especially when all they really want to do is get to the bar! Also, if you’re really not confident about public speaking, why would you want to subject yourself to standing there for that length of time?

In a nutshell, keep it short, keep it simple, and keep it to the point. So what are the bare essentials that you have to include in a good, short, Best Man Speech?

You need to compliment the bride. Hopefully you like her, although not too much. Hopefully she looks gorgeous. That makes it much easier, but remember, it has to be a sincere compliment, and a safe, family-friendly one. Don’t go overboard, otherwise it will sound like you’re jealous of the groom.

Next, you need to say a few words about the groom. Make sure you thank him for asking you to be the Best Man, and it wouldn’t hurt to make a reference to the fact that you’re not thanking him for having to make a speech. After that, you generally want to tell a few stories about the groom. If they’re funny, then all the better, but don’t try to force laughs if they’re not there.

If your stories really aren’t funny, then feel free to add a couple of jokes, but there are a couple of guidelines here too. Don’t tell too many – it’s a Best Man Speech, not a stand up routine. Choose wisely – make sure the jokes you use are suitable for family viewing. Try them out first, partly to make sure they’re funny, and partly to make sure you can tell them properly.

Lastly, you need to say a few words about the bride and groom as a couple, wish them well, and talk about how happy and successful you’re sure their marriage will be. You final task is to propose a toast to the bride and groom.

See, you’re done! Wasn’t so bad, was it? A short, sweet speech like that will last about five minutes – easy on you and easy on the audience, and if you’re really not happy about the whole process, easy on you too.