Dating violence simply may refer to physical, sexual, physiological/emotional violence or stalking within a dating process. One uses this controlling behavior on another in a relationship. It occurs mainly between teenagers either in person or through electronic media relationships where events that lead to violence exist. Unhealthy relationships just as dating violence stand for relationships where there is physical, physiological, or even emotional violence such as abuses, name-calling, giving threats. This paper looks at violence dating among high school students, its effect on them, and the causes.
Dating violence may be a result of people getting into wrong relationships. This may be relationships at an early stage or because of factors such as peer pressure. This is where a person in the relationship such as a teenager may be convinced to hurt his/her partner emotionally, physiologically, or physically. If the individual goes ahead and does as friends tell him or her, the result will be violence dating (Zweig, Dank, Yahner, and Lachman 2).
Immaturity is another major cause of unhealthy relationships among teenagers. When people engaging in the relationship are immature, for instance, under the age of sixteen or eighteen, and not yet trained or taught about how to deal with relationships, this may lead to dating violence such as stalking, hitting each other, or calling each other names due to jealousy, or imitation of other relationships (Jouriles, Rosenfield, McDonald, Kleinsasser, and Dodson 5).
A person’s cultural background may influence their behavior in a relationship leading to violence dating. A person’s character highly depends on their upbringing and cultural background. One handles relationships depending on the personal attributes he or she got from parents and society in which he or she grew up. This is mainly because of parental influence on children from an early age. For example, an individual who learned to take control in the relationship from his or her parents will most likely do the same in his or her relationship. Jouriles et al. argue that teenagers are new to relationships and society, and sometimes they will exhibit the same behavior prevalent in their homes (5).
Gender biased stereotypes and beliefs. Most people will rely on gender differences, mostly reinforced by media, where the emphasis is on the male gender that dominates the relationship while the females are submissive. Men tend to control relationships, whereas the females aim at benefiting from the male. This eventually leads to conflicts when either partner fails to meet his or her obligations as the stereotypes dictate. This may result in dating violence (Zweig et al. 5).
Dating violence occurs in high-school relationships among teenagers of young adults between the ages of twelve and nineteen in the first level of dating within the two people where one person either tries to gain control of the relationship by telling the other where to go, what to do, or what to wear. Such an individual may decide to abuse his/ her partner either physically or emotionally through stream of insults, nicknames, threatening, or even ordering. In most cases, the abused mostly feels like if he or she is the one with the fault in the relationship, whereas it is not the case (Zweig et al. 1-6).
Dating violence has negative impacts on relationships. One of the effects is a suicide attempt or actual suicide. People involved in the dating violence also undergo fatigue or stress on deep levels. Victims or people involved in the unhealthy or violent relationships often end up in alcoholism or drug abuse due to the stress levels and fatigue (Jouriles et al. 7-8).
Victims in school may experience deteriorating academic results. The victims of dating violence or unhealthy relationship due to the emotional or physical torture will not be able to concentrate well in academics, as they will mostly focus on the issue rather than on academics, hence the low performance is occurred. This happens because teenagers experience a change in emotions as they are growing. They may fail to understand what they are going through, and therefore, end up performing poorly in their academic work. This is because they lose focus and concentration in their schoolwork (Zweig et al. 10).
People involved in unhealthy relationships are vulnerable to maintain the same characteristics even in future relationships such as in marriage or afterwards. The people involved in such relationships may also fear getting into it again. Teenagers may fear to discuss such issues with their guardians and teachers. Enclosing the feelings and emotional pain to themselves leads to its permanency. This is what eventually leads to issues in their future relationships. This hinders them from moving on even when they are adult (Zweig et al. 11).
Many people, especially at teenage or high school stage, either because of lack of enough parental advice, immature relationships, or peer pressure end up either into substance abuse, alcoholism, physical or emotional stress, or even committing suicide. It is reasonable for parents and guardians to advise their children about relationships and dating. High school teachers ought to teach and inform their students about relationship issues and how to handle them well. People willing to get into relationships should create boundaries and respect each other. The community should work together and come up with effective strategies to apply a solution.
Jouriles, Ernest N., David Rosenfield, Renee McDonald, Anne L. Kleinsasser, and M. Catherine Dodson. “Explicit Beliefs about Aggression, Implicit Knowledge Structures, and Teen Dating Violence.” Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology 41.5 (2013): 1-11. Print.
Zweig, Janine M., Meredith Dank, Jennifer Yahner, and Pamela Lachman. “The Rate of Cyber Dating Abuse among Teens and How It Relates to Other Forms of Teen Dating Violence.” Journal of Youth and Adolescence 42 (2013): 1-15. Print.